How to embrace your pain and say no to pity parties

The last few weeks have been so challenging for me. Had so many situations that got me crying and feeling sorry for myself. even though I am usually a positive person who encourages others to be positive.

Today, I sat down pondering on things, and as I went on my Facebook page, someone had sent me a link to this amazing video, which after i watched it inspired me so much that I had to share it with you here. I hope you too will be encouraged to wipe those tears, take one day at a tine, and stay positive.

When faced with obstacles, try saying this every day:_


Get your copy and be inspired – Becoming Michelle Obama

Over the years i have been so inspired by Michelle Obama and her latest book is one to read for sure as it is truly ans inspiration and with nuggest of advise to give you hop and uplift your spirits.

Time for you too to be inspired and cliick   on the photo below and get your copy from amazon.


“>Michelle Obama’s book


“After a lifetime of being defined by the labels and titles others have bestowed on me, #IAmBecoming the person I had hidden away and thought was lost.” TheyCallMeNoni @moms_uterus

I could not even look at myself in the mirror.

Their was a time in my life when I let the negative words of one individual drag me down to the extent that I felt useless, unloved and lost my self esteem  and confidence so much so that  that one day I threw away all the mirrors in my house and only had one small mirror in the bathroom..

I just could not bare to look at myself in the mirror as each time I did, I could hear the words in my ear “ you are not good, you are worthless and no one will ever love you.”


Things changed one day whilst I was driving I was stuck in traffic and just in front of me a few yards on the left I saw some large mirrors outside a shop. All of a sudden, I felt an urge to get one.  I just parked the car and went over and got a long full mirror. I had this kind off excitement bubbling inside me, that I could not understand. I remember going home, putting the mirror  outside my  bedroom and I just kept looking at my reflection and was overcome by smiles and inner joy.

From that day on, I would wake up each morning, look at myself in the mirror, smile, and say “ I am unique special, and will no  longer let the negative words of one individual  drag me down.”  We have to  learn to  embrace, accept and love ourselves, along with all our flaws and imperfections.


I came across this Powerful new Serena Williams ad for Nike  and this inspired me when she says : “I’ve never been the right kind of woman. Oversized and overconfident. Too mean if I don’t smile. Too black for my tennis whites. Too motivated for motherhood. But I am proving, time and time again, there’s no wrong way to be a woman.


Hope you have a good day. Remember you are unique,  special and destined for greatness. Be confident, Be happy and always find a reason to smile,


ABC of life – very inspirational graduation speech

ABC of life – very inspirational graduation speech

A-accept the challenge
B- believe in ourselves
C- convert our thoughts into hopes
D- determination to convert our hopes into dreams
E- expect some obstacles on the way up
F- fight while being faithful and finish the course
G- get GOD on our side
H- Have a harving model of leadership
I- inspire someone else
J- take JESUS on our journey
K- keep on keeping on
L- be a leader
M- make every day count
N- never give up
O- overcome our obstacles
P- put our best foot forward
Q- quit quitting
R- run the race with pacers
S- strive on
T- trusting in the lord
U- use our talents
V- value our time
W- wait for understanding
X- X-ray our own live styles
Y- yearn to achieve all that we seek
Z- be zealous when reaching the top.

5 ways to be more confident!

As you read this, I want you to know that you already possess the Gift of Confidence within you!

Please take time to listen to my Confidence song – keep listening, learn the words and even create your own!!

If you need more help with Confidence just email me

genny @

Make the most of my free initial Confidence Booster!

African Queen Photo Experience

Thanks to Bumi at Meet the Royals events and entertainment for my  fantastic photo shoot session…

(Enquiry hot line 0782850093) They sure live to their promise “ We promise to bring out the royalty in you”


Confidence to achieve your goals in 2016

Wishing you all a happier 2016 a year you take action and work towards achieving your goals.


As you set your goals for the new year remember the words of Michelle Obama “One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am. “



Some tips on how to plan to achieve your goals

•Work to develop your inner peace and joy, and then all of the outer things will follow

•Spend some quiet time to think, write down and visualize the kind of life you would like to experience..

•Develop a strong belief and passion that you will achieve your goals with time, dedication and Passion

•Write down a daily mantra “ Yes I will achieve my goals in 2016”

•Prioritise and work on one thing you want to achieve at a given time.

•Set yourself timescales to complete things

•Get yourself someone who can work with you to help you achieve your goals


•Stay focus on what you want to achieve and don’t let people, things or situations distract you.

•Follow through your ideas and avoid procrastination.

•Do not over commit your time, money, resources and energy on things that will not help you achieve your goals.

•Take time out in the morning and night to be still and focus on you having all the resources you need to achieve your goals.


•Obstacles and challenges will come your way, but see them as opportunities to learn and grow.

•Make sure you plan your schedule so that you can have a good work life balance

•As people help you to fulfill your dreams, remember to help others too.

Be grateful, appreciate and celebrate all you have achieved so far

If you need help with this email me genny @ confidentqueen . co . uk

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