Maybe it’s time to walk away from a bad relationship

When we get into a relationship, we don’t expect it to end, for some of us who waited a long time for Mr  or Miss Right to come along, we get all excited and think, wow finally I have found my prince charming.

Personally I can confess that the signs where their from the onset that the relationship would not last, but because I waited to long for Mr right and I felt my biological clock was ticking, I was happy and excited to meet someone and get married, I must say I also did fall in love as we met in quite an unexpected way.

Their comes a time when you will just know it’s time to move on and walk away.

The journey from then on is not going to be easy, but believe me with time, you will heal and be ready to love again or just carry on being single and enjoy your life with family and friends

I hope you find this useful and do email me if you need free support by email and skype – you don’t have to hurt alone. I have been their and know it’s not easy. Smile and know you are loved.


Try to live a happy life no mattter what you are going through

Everyday we wake up not knowing what the day will unfold, but yet still we must start with a positive attitude that something good is going to happen and pray for strength to cope with any challenges that may come our way.


Please feel free to contact me for free support via email or skype.

Simple ways to motivate yourself to get out of bed in the morning

Sometimes it’s a struggle  to get up in the morning, you feel  sluggish, frustrated and fed up with the same old boring cycle of work hard but still trying to make ends meet. You have unfilled goals and you may be even fed up with the way your life has turned out. You look around and you feel everyone else is moving on whilst you are still in a rot. Yes, it’s ok to feel like that at times, because it’s all part of life. The trick is not to let these thing weigh you down for long, if not you will end up being depressed.

So today I urge you to start of with working on changing your mindset and belief – focus on the fact that things will get better, see your life getting better and keep saying it. To get your motivation back, I suggest like me, you start your day on a positive note, by following this simple things I do, and you can amend them and decide how may minutes you want too devote to this.

Morning routine – don’t just rush out of bed in the morning


As soon as you wake up, just stay in bed do a little stretch and spend a minute enjoying the quietness of the morning and thank God you are alive to see another day.

Think of all the people and situations in your life that you are grateful for.

Be thankful for the day ahead and pray for strength to carry on your daily routine

Look at what you have to do today and visualise yourself doing them and having  good and productive day.

Write down some positive affirmations, say them out loud or even sing them out loud eg  Life is good, today is going to be good day.

Please let me know how you get on. Remberlife is what you make it, so try and make it good.


Enjoy being single and celebrate today – Singles Awareness Day

When I was much younger, I was always worried during the times I found myself  being single, and used to e upset on valentines day if I didn’t get a card. I remember when I was in college being envious of friends who had cards and gifts which they brought in to  “show off” and then has to listen to their plans for a romantic evening. Worst time for me was then in the evening being home alone with a bottle of wine and box of chocolates which i treated my self to, and then crying to sleep in the hope that at least I could meet my tall dark handsome stranger in my dreams. (LOL it never happened!)

Now I am older and wiser, and after my divorce, I chose to be single as I really wanted to spend time bringing up my children. and give mysel time to cope with all the hurts and pain .  14 years on, my children are older, now it’s about taking care of me and enjoying the freedom to be me and not having to put so much time bringing up my children as they are older and independent.

Contrary to popular misconceptions, Singles Awareness Day is not about self-pity but rather a chance to announce to the world that you are single and happy to be so.

Originally, most singles referred to February 14 as Single’s Awareness Day (acronym: SAD) until it they realized that that was just depressing. Choosing the next day allowed single people a chance to turn this into a celebration rather than a festival of self-pity. This is the day that all of us  single people can proudly stand up and show that it is okay to be single. Take that, cupid!

There is no reason to be miserable that you are independent and unattached; on the contrary, there are many more people in relationships than you might think who rather wish they were in your shoes, with nobody to answer to but themselves. So if you are single try not to stress, instead take time to work on yourself and let love find you.

Read more about this day here

Happy being single on valentine’s day


Why I need to get a happy bus #HappyBuskent

My dream is get the Happy Bus Kent – so that my self and team happy could go around different places in kent, delivering our happiness and wellbeing activties to help people feel good and take care of their mental wellbeing.
Our activities will inclue using arts and craft, drummming, singing,dancing and laughter yoga.
We will also deliver little bags of happiness to cheer up people who are nominated.
We also aim to collaborate with existing organisations in the area of happiness, and mental wellbeing so that we can sign post people to services available.
The happy bus will also do outreach to isolated communities as wel as taking part in major events aroumd kent where we will have our bus, and gazibo so that people can come and find out about our services as well as engage in some of the activities we put on.

I was so happy when  Jackie Lloyd who is my mentor bought  me a small toy bus which really helps me to see that my dream can true  very soon.  So if you know how I can do this, please feel free to contact me   genny @   confidentqueen. co. uk

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How to prepare to give up something for Lent

How to prepare for Lent


What is lent

During the weeks leading up to Easter,  Christians prepare for it by taking their spirituality particularly seriously.  This period is called Lent.  It lasts just over six weeks.

Lent is a season of forty days, not counting Sundays, which begins on Ash Wednesday and ends on Holy Saturday. Lent comes from the Anglo Saxon word lencten, which means “spring.”   In Lent, many of us Christians commit to fasting and praying , as well as “giving up” certain luxuries in order to “replicate the sacrifice of Jesus Christ’s journey into the desert for 40 days.” Even if you are not a christian you can decided to use this period to give up something. The interesting fact is that most religions have  a period of fasting, praying and seeking divine guidance.


Decide if you want to “give up” something. Lent is based on sacrifice, so most of us  who believe in lent choose to stop eating a favourite food or pursuing a favourite activity. Whether you give up or start something is completely your choice, so choose wisely.


Questions to ask your self before you give something up for Lent.


  1. Is this something I like?
  2. Is this something I enjoy doing/eating?
  3. Is this something that’s important to me?
  4. Do I think this will be a challenge throughout Lent?
  5. Will I appreciate this when I can have/do it again on Easter?
  6. Am I giving this up because I have to (someone is making me), or because I want to?

How to keep going and don’t give up

  • Remember the reasons why you are giving this thing or activity up
  • Imagine how better you will feel or look when you come to the end
  • Prepare in advance how you are going to celebrate you achieving this.
  • Get yourself someone who you know will encourage and support you
  • Write down some positive encouraging affirmations that you can read out each day
  • Pray each day for strength to carry on till the end

Best wishes and do let me know how you get on.

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